4 Reasons to Date Yourself
February is the month of love. If you are newly single, or have been for some time, society can definitely make sure you are aware of it; from the media to the people around you. This year, instead of feeling lonely and wishing you had someone to “cake” with during one of the most romantic times of the year, how about you try pouring all that love into yourself. There are some awesome benefits to dating yourself. Here are a few ways to get you started.
Be a better partner to yourself. We put expectations on others to make us happy and to fill our void. But when did that become someone else's responsibility? You are the queen/king in your life, treat yourself as such. Do things that make you smile, treat yourself with the respect you deserve, and pamper yourself. Love on you, like you would love on someone one. Dating yourself increases your level of independence and allows you to become more comfortable with yourself.
Work on your insecurities. It’s not about change but the acceptance of your insecurities. Our Insecurities are formed in multiple ways such as recent failures, past experiences, and trying to be "perfect". When you're dating yourself, you have the opportunity and time to address your insecurities and accept them for what they are. Your insecurities do not take away your value, they make you unique. However, if your insecurities aren't addressed, they take away from your confidence and what makes you stand apart from others. You can address your insecurities by journaling, positive self-talk, and therapy. Take this time to increase your self-love and shine!
Detach from the idea of the dream partner. No one is perfect. The more you become in-tuned with yourself the more you will understand how true it is. Being perfect does not make someone special, but being your authentic self does. Being authentic comes with imperfections. The more you love yourself, the more you will be able to love someone for they are, without lowering yourself in the process. Accept that you do not know when that special someone will come into your life, but continue to work on you so that you will be able to receive them and still care for you, when it happens.
Be compassionate with yourself. Oftentimes, we feel like we are the only one who is without a partner. Like we're on an island, and everyone else is in this blissful, always romantic relationship with their better half when in reality, there are so many people who are in a very similar situation as you. As you date yourself, you find that it's actually pretty nice and peaceful on the single side; it’s all about you, enjoy! Be kind to yourself. Your relationship status does not define you. Regardless of your relationship status, you still deserve to be loved, be that person who shows up for you. You aren't alone, literally.
If you need to, join a support group and communicate with the people who love you. Be mindful, be here, be present with yourself. Concentrate your mind so that it doesn’t allow your anxieties to stop you from living your life.
Live your life, today. Go try that new restaurant you have been dying to go to, or go ice skating, or travel somewhere. Do it all. Be the best partner you can be, for you. It only gets better from here.
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